“Of course I want intimacy. Every man and every woman does…I look in the mirror each morning and I tell myself, it’s just not my time. God’s got someone out there for me, it’s just not my time.” says Kerri, a 40-ish, divorced, single parent appearing in the Voices of Hope DVD. When sharing her attitude toward dating and intimacy, Kerri, whether she realized it or not, presented a very hopeful attitude. Kerri is not denying her desire for meeting someone and being married. She says she wants that. What is refreshing about her attitude is her placing complete trust in God for the person He chooses for her, and His timeline. That is hope in action: acknowledging her own desires and then placing the matter completely in God’s hands with a willingness to wait patiently and joyfully for whatever outcome God wants.
For many of us, myself included, this is difficult to do. We want to fix out lives NOW. We are impatient. We think we know best. Unfortunately, many times we are wrong. We need to step back and remind ourselves that God is God, and we are not. He knows the deepest desires of our hearts, and He knows exactly what is best for us. If we are able to believe that, then hope flows naturally. We let go of our fears, our insecurities, and our self-created image of what our lives should be like. We entrust our lives to God. We relax. What follows is a deep peace and an abiding contentment. We are no longer consumed with our future and are free to live joyfully in the present.
But I trust in you, Lord; I say, “You are my God.” My destiny is in your hands. – Psalm 31:15-16