Fear Is A Lousy Strategy

One of the most common reactions to divorce is fear. That is very understandable. Who wouldn’t be scared if their entire life came crashing in around them? The problem with fear is not being scared, that’s normal. The problem is acting on fear.

Raising Your Kids Catholic Despite Divorce

Raising out children Catholic after a divorce can be very difficult if the other spouse is not cooperative, and 9 times out of 10 they are not. Heck, if they were strong Catholics, you most likely would not have ended up divorced. There are two ways to approach this: the temporal and the spiritual. Both […]

Dealing with Divorce: Tip #1

When you are divorced or separated, there is no shortage of people telling you to “Look on the bright side.” Yeah, right! Much easier said then done. While they mean well, unless they have been in your shoes, they really don’t have a clue how difficult life can be. Well, I have been in your […]

Caught by surprise. Why does it still hurt?

When I was going through my divorce my counselor described grieving as a process. Typically it includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The first time through this process usually takes the longest. Once you are through it, life seems to get better and your positive outlook returns. It is also very common for something […]

Welcome to My New and Improved Blog!

I have been hard at work for the last three months completely redoing my blog. I have added many new features to hopefully serve you better. Here is a recap: FREE Ebook I have just released my new ebook, Daily Inspirations for Divorced Catholics, Top 30 Reader Favorites. It’s free, and only available when you […]

When to take the ring off?

This is an interesting question that was recently posted on the divorcedcatholic.org forum. There are many different perspectives, that’s for sure. Here’s mine: Having recently gotten married (2 years ago) I remember very well the words I said to my wife (and she to me): “Monica, take this ring as the sign of my love […]

Avoid Pitfalls: Essential Key to Recovering from Divorce

Six proven ways to avoid major setbacks on the road to recovering from divorce

Avoid Pitfalls

When recovering from divorce, it is just as smart to avoid doing the wrong things as it is to do the right things. One poor decision can be a major setback on the road to recovery. Here are six things you want to avoid: 1. Dating/Bars/Nightclubs After a divorce, you are very vulnerable. And who […]

Essential Key to Recovering from Divorce: Your Kids

Six powerful ways to help your kids adjust to divorce and aid in your own recovery

Kids

My kids are so stressed out that two of my boys are pulling out their eyebrows.” Ellen said in between her sobs. She went on to explain that, while it had been over three years since her divorce was final, she and her former spouse were still viciously fighting with each other, many times in […]

Essential Key to Recovering from Divorce: Your Former Spouse

Four ways to help ensure a more peaceful future when dealing with your former spouse

former spouse

This is the third time this month you have been late picking up the kids. You are going to have to figure out a way to be more on time,” I said coldly. My former spouse just looked at me with a mixture of embarrassment and exhaustion. After the kids were gone and the house […]