Recently, a woman shared a story with me about how she had to deal with a very tense situation with her former husband. She explained how she had to wait in line with him for over an hour to get a utility bill changed into her name. He was not making it any easier on her by being very impatient and unpleasant. By the time they got to the window, her former spouse became more obnoxious, making the situation extremely uncomfortable for her and the account representative. During this entire time, she kept her cool. When everything was completed, and her former spouse had left, the account rep complimented this woman on how well she had handled this very difficult situation. Clearly, her patience, self-restraint, and dare I say, charity, spoke volumes.
The woman could have pulled the rip-cord on the entire situation by refusing to deal with her former spouse. But she didn’t. She pressed on, and in doing so, allowed God to bless her and the people around her. So often, we want to cut and run from difficult situations instead of allowing God to bless us in these moments. God only works in the present moment. By being open to how He is working in each moment, even the very trying ones, gives us the opportunity to receive His blessings. This willingness to endure allows blessings to flow and ultimately shared by all involved–even obnoxious former spouses.
Make me a channel of your peace. – Prayer of St. Francis
Originally posted 2014-03-20 11:00:22.
I am unable to be kind, at all, to my ex-husband…We have not spoken in years…The last time I tried to communicate with him, he called the local police on me…He said that they were “on alert”…I am trying not to hate him for what he did to me and my animals, took my home from me, has his parents’ money after they passed from this world. I am and have been responsible for my son’s pets after he left for college. I am the least able to afford it, but I have done my best…Please advise….
With a divorce, many times our challenges are much bigger than we are. I suggest daily prayer, frequently receiving the Eucharist, and counseling can go a long, long way toward bringing relief and hope.
Live Abundantly,
Vince