As the fog of emotional pain was starting to lift from my divorce, I made an unexpected discovery: quiet time. Every other weekend the kids went off to their other parent. Initially, the house seemed eerily quiet after the kids left. But over time I came to really appreciate, even look forward to, having this time all to myself. I slept in, caught up on all the chores I did not have time to do while taking care of the kids, and I even spent time just on me.
It was during these weekends that I was really able to dig into my faith. I had the luxury of time and could spend hours reading scripture, going to Mass or adoration, praying, or singing my favorite Christian songs at the top of my lungs. I also had time to go and visit different churches and shrines, meet up with other Catholic friends for bible study and other church activities, and routinely go to reconciliation. As I reflect back, those weekends became my “mini-retreats” with Jesus. Being able to immerse myself in my faith really helped me draw close to Christ. In doing so, He was able to heal me. I look back on those times with great fondness. This one-on-one time with Christ, and the resulting deepening of my Catholic faith, was the silver lining that came out of the hurricane of my divorce. Take advantage of the extra time a divorce drops into your life and pursue Christ. He offers you a tranquil port in the midst of your storm.
By waiting and by calm you shall be saved, in quiet and in trust shall be your strength. – Isaiah 30:15
Originally posted 2015-01-08 06:00:04.
This really spoke to me. I am just now going starting the divorce process after my wife of almost 31 years was having an affair and has moved in with the guy. She wants the divorce, but I wanted to work on our marriage, but she said no. My son moved out one month ago into an apartment and my daughter will be moving out in July so I will be by myself. That will be difficult as they have been the people I lean on but I look forward to spending more time with God and growing closer to Him.
Vince,
I like this part of your program, that is getting back to our Catholic Faith.
Your encouragement in this is appreciated as I know down deep this is the way for me as well.