I vividly remember a day, about three months into my divorce, driving to my counselor’s office. I had been battling to keep my marriage alive for the prior two years, and, for the last three months, I had been witnessing its destruction, piece by painful piece. The emotional pain was so intense that it robbed […]
Before my divorce, I usually only prayed at Mass on Sundays and before meals. Once my divorce hit, it seemed like I was praying all the time. Well, that is, if you consider pleading praying. I was calling out (read: SCREAMING) to Jesus continuously throughout the day for Him to save my marriage. Most of […]
The low point in my divorce came on Christmas Day, 2000. My attorney (he is Jewish) called me to explain the latest legal strategy my former spouse was using in our very contentious custody battle. (Aren’t they all?!) It was bad enough that I was emotionally shattered from going through a divorce with three small […]
A feeling of relief washed over me as my cellphone began to ring. I could tell from the Caller-ID that it was an international number. My brother was working over in Italy, and I had been anxiously waiting for his call all day. Anxious is probably too mild a word to describe my emotional state […]
It was about two months into my divorce and I was at the grocery store picking up a few things to feed the kids. I was not in there for me, as I was not very hungry. In fact, I had pretty much lost my appetite since my divorce hit. As a result, I had […]
It was late one October evening and I was in my basement office. All my kids were sound asleep. Their mother was out — again. This had become part of a distinct pattern over the past year. Her late nights, unexplained absences, missing important school events, and a general detachment from family life, had become […]
I will never forget the day I dragged myself into my counselor’s office, about two months into my divorce. I was in so much emotional pain that I could hardly put one foot in front of the other. It was a chore just to walk. What made it worse was that I had reached the […]
Raising our children Catholic after a divorce can be very difficult if your former spouse is not cooperative. There are two ways to help ensure our kids keep the faith: the worldly and the spiritual. Both are necessary, and must be in the right balance, to ensure consistency in raising your kids Catholic. That’s really all […]
If Jesus were to send you a written Valentine, it would probably say something like this: Dear Valentine, I know the pain you have been through, I experienced it when they were beating me. I know the loneliness you are feeling, I experienced it when everyone abandoned me when I was arrested. I know your […]
Christmas was only two months after my divorce was filed. It was a terrible time in my life. I was an emotional wreck, my kids were struggling big-time, and I even got a call from my attorney Christmas morning (he’s Jewish) about some major issue with my divorce. Yet, somehow, I had to pull it […]