In ancient times, lepers where considered “unclean” and were the outcasts of society. They were socially ostracized and forced to live separated from the community. Sadly, it is not uncommon to feel the same way after going through a divorce as a Catholic. You may feel “unclean” and unworthy to participate in your faith. This is made worse by the condescending stares as you walk into Mass alone, or by people who you thought were friends now ignoring you. Being divorced and Catholic can make you feel like a modern-day leper.
Take heart! Jesus reaches out to you just like he did the lepers of old, full of mercy and compassion. In Mark’s Gospel, Jesus, filled with compassion, hears the leper’s plea and immediately heals him (Mark 1:40-42). Jesus offers the same compassion and healing for you. When you are feeling isolated and stained by divorce, cry out to Jesus. Ask him to show mercy and compassion on you and expect him to work miracles in your life. He will! He knows your pain and your shame. He also knows that you were made in the image of His father and that you are wonderful and good, no matter what this world does to you. Reach out to Jesus. He will touch you, heal you, and restore you to the fullness of life.
Moved with compassion, Jesus stretched out his hand and touched him, and said to him, “I do choose. Be made clean!” – Mark 1:41
Originally posted 2014-08-04 06:00:53.
Lately I have been feeling this way. Even people who support you can be condescending without noticing . But the worst is when you are rejected because trying to protect your children you are hiding your ex spouse serious sins, you tell nothing about her mistakes, and people judge you in a wrong way. And specially when the priest himself judges you.
Fernando,
I hear you, but remember, Our Lord knows all. Trust in Him that He will reveal what needs to be revealed at the right time. And, He will protect you in the meantime. I know that trust can be difficult. If you are not familiar with Divine Mercy, check it out. http://www.thedivinemercy.org It has been a HUGE help to many in trusting fully in Jesus.
Live Abundantly,
Vince
I am also living this right now. The feeling of being a “failed Catholic” in the eyes of those who thought you had the so-called perfect marriage will never believe the truth of what it really was outside the walls of there church were yeah, it appeared to the “masses” we were okay. I am clinging tight to Jesus and to the Sacraments of His Church because I know they will be the only things that get me through this valley.
Denice,
You are so correct. There is no better way to deal with divorce than by clinging to Christ and His sacraments!
Live Abundantly,
Vince