“My daughter wants nothing to do with me.” John said with a quiver in his voice and tears welling up in his eyes. John proceeded to tell me how his kids had become alienated from him because of his divorce. His phone calls went unanswered, and his texts were never returned. He was hurting, and he was ready to give up. He reached out to me as a last-ditch effort to try and figure out what to do.
I advised him to never give up loving his kids. I told him that surely they were in a lot of pain from the divorce, and they were rejecting him because of that pain — for now. I suggested that he continue to text them each week, call them routinely, leaving loving, thoughtful voicemails if they didn’t answer, and never forget important dates in their lives like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc. I also advised him to go to any events of their’s that were possible. He didn’t need anyone’s permission to sit in the bleachers and watch their game. The bottom line is he needs to remain as active and present a figure in their lives as possible. In the long run, I told him, he could be confident, that no matter what he had done (or not done) in the past, his consistent acts of love would win back his kids’ hearts eventually.
If you are feeling estranged or separated from those you love because of divorce, never stop loving them, no matter what the challenges may be. Our Lord never stopped loving us, even when it meant hours of grueling torture, and death. Love always wins in the end.
Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:8