The year or two after my divorce was final was a very confusing time. I sure did my share of fumbling around as I tried, often in vain, to figure out this new life I had been thrust into. I would like to say I learned quickly, and I was able to promptly bring order and clarity into my life. But, that would be a lie. Usually, I would act like a spoiled brat with God, demanding that He take away my every pain and grant me my every desire. I often felt like I was in a tug-o-war with God. Pulling hard to get my way, and fighting just as hard against what was clearly His way.
If this sounds like you, remember this: God only has one plan for us–Plan A. He created us to fulfill that plan. He has no Plan B. When things are difficult, or we rather just set our own course, we want there to be a Plan B. This plan is easier, more comfortable, and if the truth be known, serves primarily to make us happy. And there’s the rub. When we run our plan instead of God’s, while it might make us happy, and reduce the pain in our lives, it is only temporary. Lasting peace and joy only comes from surrendering our life to live God’s plan for us. Anything else is just Plan B.
“My Father, if this cannot pass unless I drink it, thy will be done.” – Matthew 26:42
Originally posted 2014-09-26 06:00:00.
Very good inspiration. Being an abandoned spouse is tough. Some days are good and others are tough. I have to be an example to my kids and show them the love of God. It is tough because of my imperfections. I believe that I am purging myself of my selfishness and becoming selfless. I still have a long way to go. I keep turning to the sacraments and focusing on God and treasure in Heaven. Life is short compared to eternity. God will never abandon me and has helped me so much the last 4 years. God bless!
When people use the word ‘God’s plan’ as you have, it infers that there is a predetermined destiny and man should sit back and let that plan happen…I suggest we say ‘God’s mission’ and each man needs to take action ! should he decide to accept that mission.
I like your perspective! Thanks for sharing.
Live Abundantly,
Vince
Yes, God has a plan for each one of us. Let’s pray we can accomplish his plan before he calls us home.
Amen!
Live Abundantly,
Vince
Some days it just seems so impossible. It’s all so muddled and unclear. Help me Jesus.
Kelly,
You are so right. During those times, stay close to Christ in prayer and the sacraments. Confession is a particularly good sacrament to provide clarity as it “wipes your windshield clean” and allows you to see more clearly. I wrote a Daily Inspiration about that. Here it is: https://vincefrese.com/mud-on-the-windshield-2/
I hope you find it helpful.
Blessings,
Vince
Vince,
I am pleased you have this Plan A advice, as it makes a lot of sense to me at this time as my divorce is in process. The Catholic was has to be my plan of action.